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'Chip Psychology' on domestic abusers

What would you do, if on your first or second date with a new mate, they suddenly reached over the table with a cheeky grin on their face, stole a chip from your plate and shoved it in their mouth?

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'Fresher Mind' the Psychology of Uni Blues

There is a little known and even lesser discussed phenomena that happens this time of year, in the mind of the first year university student, the fresher.

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Victim

‘Stop playing the victim’, ‘you’re just attention seeking’, ‘get over it’.  Psychological wounds are as real as physical wounds. Sometimes people ‘play the victim’ because they are the victim. 

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Stuck On Projection

Being in the grocery aisle of a busy supermarket on a Saturday is not my idea of fun. Less so when I passed by a mother and her two little boys, aged approximately 7 & 9, sweetly standing by the side of her trolley.

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Emotional Stealth Bombs

If you were ever the recipient of an emotional stealth bomb you would know it. You would know because you would be in obliterated emotional bits, with virtually all of your amygdala (the emotion centre of your brain) fragmented all over the place.

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The Geese Community

In the western world, where autonomy has filtered out our sense of communion by unnatural selection, it’s no wonder so many people are feeling alone, outcast, abandoned by their own communities.

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No Difference Between Insanity & Love

There is no difference between insanity and love. Conditional love that is. In both, we are deluded in la la land. We make impulsive and poor decisions, we react disproportionately.

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A Sociopath on Social Media

Many years ago, before I even knew the term, what one was or acted like, I met a sociopath. Like most other people, I had no concept of the fact that ‘bad boys’ are really ‘mad boys’ that every girl should keep a distance from.

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Wicked Witch Syndrome

You will know when you’ve met a wicked witch because she will be screaming her intolerable demands for an apology. Whatever you do don’t apologise because it is a trick … a really wicked one!

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Duped

She sobbed. Uncontrollably. Clearly bereft and wounded, she found my suggestion to forgive utterly impossible to accept. ‘But he came into my house’, she pleaded desperately, ‘and destroyed my family’.

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Pool Party Anyone?

There are lots of things that make me wonder?  But of all the questions I really, really want to be answered is this; on the day of the incident, why was she wearing a swimsuit?

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How to Survive a Presentation

With self-consciousness on overdrive, people often completely stress-out about performing a presentation. There are, however, some simple ‘dos and don’ts’ to follow.

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Phoenix Lives

Early one morning, I awoke to the sound of falling rubble coming from within the chimney-stack. In the twilight of dawn I put on my nightgown and crept downstairs to explore.

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Holographic Works of Art

It’s all a question of perception really. What people see, is largely what is already within their expectation to see; that which is within their quiet programming and prior experiences.

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Bad For Their Word

“That’s outrageous”, she said, “if it happens again call me and I’ll sort it out immediately”. It happened again. I called her. She never came. In fact, I never saw her again. 

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Oblivious

It was a sleepy start to the working day. The kind of atmosphere where you nod good morning toward your also semi sleep-walking ‘who just drove the car in’ colleague. 

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Other People

If it wasn’t for ‘other people’, we’d be Ok – right? When life naturally brings us its own challenges and difficulties, the last thing we need to add to our burden, is the stress and pressure brought on often unnecessarily and unfairly, by ‘other people’.

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Home

Home is an interesting concept. For some people, their idea of home is the place they grew up in; which can be a good or a not so good memory return. As adults, home might be thought of as the place we now live in.

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Choose Yourself

The stories you have told me – about online dating. Oh. My. Goodness. The major problem as I see it, is not only that online, anyone can be anything they want to be, but that people are unaware of the invisible tentacles of attachment.

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Why Grown Men Cry

Today I saw five grown men cry. The first caught my elsewhere attention. The second made me stop what I was doing completely. The third made me sit down and listen. 

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The Patterns of Autumn

It’s Autumn. It’s stunningly beautiful Autumn, with fields of gold and trees of orange and red, a walk in the woods is surely beckoning. And not just to inhale all those essential smells that are great for our brain health.

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Business Psychology Success in Meetings

Meetings are often overrated. People spend hours in unnecessary business meetings where nothing more is communicated than who has the latest ‘interactive’ pie chart. 

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